CHURCH BEHAVIOR

Many people have stopped going to church not because they lost faith in God, but because they were hurt by the behavior of people inside the church. We often fail to realize how our words, actions, and attitudes can push souls away instead of drawing them closer to Christ.

We are called to win souls, not drive them away. Yet some leave because they faced judgment, gossip, manipulation, or hypocrisy within the very place that should have brought healing and love.

Some preach about love but speak harshly to others. Some sing about unity but create division. Some teach about humility but act with pride. Some pray for revival but secretly rejoice when others fall. And sadly, some gossip more inside the church than people who don’t even know God.

Nowadays, some act more like influencers than servants of God—seeking attention, visibility, or admiration instead of serving with humility. Ministry is not about fame, followers, or stage lights. It’s about reflecting Christ quietly, faithfully, and sincerely.

There are also people who spend more time talking about who sat where, who wore what, or who spoke to whom than they do meditating on the Word. Some even watch where you sit in church—and if you happen to like a specific place, it bothers them. They whisper, they comment, they judge—all over things that have nothing to do with salvation. This is not the spirit of Christ. It’s the spirit of distraction, and it hurts the unity of the church.

And then there are those who take money or credit from their own brothers and sisters in Christ and never bother to pay it back. They make all kinds of excuses, avoid the person, or act as if nothing happened—for­getting that honesty and integrity are also part of Christian character. You cannot raise your hands to worship on Sunday while owing someone and refusing to make it right. The Bible says, “Let your yes be yes, and your no be no.” Our word must mean something, especially among believers.

Some talk more about their families serving in church, their titles, or their positions than about the Gospel itself. Others use their roles to manipulate or control rather than to serve and guide in love. And many preach about dying to self or living for Christ, but their actions say otherwise when no one is watching.

No one is perfect, but as believers, we must understand that our behavior has consequences. A careless word, a prideful attitude, a lack of integrity, or a look of disapproval can wound a soul deeply. A person who came to find peace may instead leave feeling judged, disappointed, or betrayed—and may never return.

Christ didn’t build His church on pride, gossip, or competition. He built it on love, grace, forgiveness, honesty, and unity. The church should be a place where hearts are healed, not where they are hurt.

It’s good to know the Bible, but God said, “Live My Word.” Faith is not theory; it’s a lifestyle. Let’s be practical, not just theoretical. Let’s apply what we read, practice what we preach, and live what we believe.

Let’s reflect on our behavior and attitudes. Let’s make sure that what people see in us is Christ—not pride, gossip, deceit, or self-promotion. Let’s love genuinely, forgive freely, live with integrity, and serve humbly.

Because at the end of the day, it’s not how visible we are in church that matters, but how visible Christ is through us.

“By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” – John 13:35